Being at the 4 month relationship mark can bring up a lot of questions.
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One of the most common questions people want to know at this relationship stage is, "Should he be in love with me at this point?" "Is it normal that he has not said "I love you" yet?"
Now that we are dating for 4 months, where do we go from here?
At this point, most likely you are he is getting to know one another and are learning each others lifestyle, likes, and dislikes.
It can be an uncertain time in a relationship because feelings between you and him are growing, but you do not feel 100% comfortable letting him know exactly how you feel about things.
Often times you want to know where he is at emotionally before telling him how you feel first.
So most likely at this 4-month relationship stage, you are doing a lot of guessing as to what he is thinking and how he feels about you.
It is very common to feel this way and does negatively reflect on your relationship. This is something that many newer couples must go through in order to become a solid couple down the road.
"Dating For 4 Months And No "I Love You"...Is That Normal?"
It is common to want to know at the 4-month relationship stage if he loves you or not.
It is around this time that you either have told him you love him or you are constantly thinking questioning if you should tell him.
It is a vulnerable place to be in a relationship. In my professional opinion, it is always healthy to be authentic and honest with the person you are dating.
And if you decide to you want to take the leap to tell him you love him, understand that you may not hear those words back to you....and that's okay!!!
Everyone falls in love at different paces and being in the 4-month relationship mark, not saying "I love you" is not a warning sign that something is wrong.
It is just a sign that more time is needed. His reason for not saying those three words is not about you. It is about him. He could not know what he wants or needs in a relationship.
It is possible he might not be ready to commit long term. He might be afraid to be vulnerable. Whatever the reason is, it is important for you to be patient.
I would start getting worried around the 6-month mark if he has not said it yet.
During the time you either say or have decided you love him and he hasn't said it to you yet, figure out what you love about him. Is this really love or infatuation?
This is a good self-reflective moment to focus on your feelings, desires, and needs in the relationship. What do you want to get from this relationship?
Is he giving you what you need? It is important to honest with yourself to make sure that you are making the right decision to be in this relationship.